In an ideal world, the answer to the above would be categorically ‘no’. However, writing is a hard game which requires an extraordinary amount of patience and self-belief. Anyone who says it’s easy, might not be going about the whole business in the right way. Or they are kidding themselves.
Rejection is tough. God knows I’ve cried, I’ve thrown pillows across the room, I’ve drunk one too many vinos and then cried even harder the next day because my head hurts so much. There is, however, such a thing as good rejection. If an agent/an editor gives you feedback (it is a precious resource – don’t dismiss it with a wave of a hand and a ‘they don’t know what they’re talking about) grab it with both hands and use it. Rejection can arrive in the form of a standard letter – stash this away. If you receive an email or anything with a few nuggets of why the answer was ‘no’, take it on board and use it. You’ve been handed a gift. Sure, the temptation is there to think you’re above it all – no need for any help here, thank you but, frankly, you’re not. We all need help. We are all always learning.
If the advice doesn’t make sense then go to an editorial consultancy. My favourite is